A few weeks ago, I found out that a close friend of mine had recently suffered a miscarriage. It broke my heart, not only because of her loss, but because she had suffered in silence. She was still in her first trimester, and had thus not told many people about her pregnancy. As such, she decided to keep it quiet when the miscarriage occurred.
I know that every person deals with pain and loss differently. Some need the comfort of solitude, while others need to surround themselves with the love and support of friends. But I would never want to think that a woman would go through this kind of pain and loss because she doesn't know where or to whom to turn for solace. If family and friends are not an option, there are plenty of resources to turn to on the Web.
Here are just a few of the excellent online support groups available for both men and women who have lost babies to a miscarriage.
A Heartbreaking Choice: A support group for people who have chosen to terminate pregnancies due to severe fetal health problems. The site offers a nonjudgmental place to find support. To learn more, click here.
Bella Online: Support forum for women who have suffered a miscarriage. The forum can be found here.
Multiple Miscarriages: A listserv for women who have suffered more than once pregnancy loss. Also offers a chat area for live discussion of issues and monthly virtual seminars. To fill out the on-line application form, click here.
You might also want to check out this emotional and heart-felt video featuring Tori Amos as she is interviewed about her multiple miscarriages.