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Should you reward your kids for good grades?
Forty-eight percent of parents offer cash incentives for kids who bring home good grades. But should they?
Tue, Nov 13 2012 at 2:00 PM
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Report card season is upon us. Time for the kids to show off what they have - or haven't - accomplished so far this school year. For some parents, report card day is filled with anxiety and arguments over whether or not grades could have, or should have, been higher. For others, the day is filled with pats on the back for a job well done. Parents on both sides of the fence often offer rewards - monetary or otherwise - to inspire or reward kids for bringing home good grades. But should they?
According to a study conducted by the American Institute of CPA's, 48 percent of parents reward kids with cash for good grades. Parents pay an average of $16.60 for each "A" received. That's a pretty good rate! But should a child's only motivation to study be in lining his pockets? Shouldn't she want to get good grades for the sake of learning? Some experts think that handing out cash for good grades may actually undermine a child's own motivation to succeed.
Still, if your kids just aren't motivated to do it on their own, experts agree that its better to reward good grades than punish a child for bringing home a less than stellar report card.
Scholastic has some good tips for rewarding kids for their academic achievement without breaking the bank. They suggest spontaneous rewards - such as a family night at a restaurant - that is neither planned nor expected for every report card. They also emphasize the need to praise and reward hard work, rather than just grades. A child who works very hard to bring a "C" up to a "B" may deserve more of a pat on the back than one who consistently achieves all "A's" with little effort.
In our house, my kids get heaps of praise when they do well on a test or anytime they go the extra mile to complete a project or learn something new. But we really don't do anything other than pats on the back for the grades brought home on report cards. I know that I'm lucky in that my kids really enjoy learning, but I also think that they fact that they aren't "paid" for good grades makes them more meaningful all around.
That's what works for us, and I am well aware that this approach does not work for everyone.
What works in your house? Do you reward your kids for good grades?
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With a daughter in first grade, I barely even discussed her report card with her other than to tell her she was doing a good job. After a recent Girl Scout meeting she asked me if she got A's or A+'s because her friends told her they got A+'s (a distinction that is not even made on the report card) and I groaned. I don't want school and learning, which she loves, to be reduced to that.
I am not keen on rewarding for good grades. And there have been some grade rewarding schemes around the kids in our family who struggle with schoolwork. This left the other kids feeling cold and envious, since they were natural academic sorts. One of the girls was jealous of the mother/father/son coffee dates to discuss his academic issues and was plotting to do poorly in a class so she would get coffee.