I have been incredibly blessed by a simple change — I changed my somewhat-typical diet to a healthier, more nourishing meal plan. I love how it helps me get energy, feel nourished, and helps me avoid digestive problems.
I think there is a lot of research (let alone the countless anecdotal stories out there) that back up the claim that what we eat makes a difference. Because I really believe that, I keep forging ahead in a quest to keep my diet nourishing — and I'm also glad to share what I am learning with others.
But sometimes that ideal of a perfectly nourishing diet meets reality, and ideals can come tumbling down.
Here are a few common realities that can disrupt our plans:
- Limited budget
- Limited time
- Limited energy
- Limited resources
- Illnesses or deaths in the family
- Morning sickness
- Work crisis
- Loss of job
- And many more
For example, four years ago I had terrible morning sickness and that greatly affected not only what I could eat, but also how much cooking I could do for my family. We simply did what we could. My husband taught himself how to make some of my quick recipes, I ate a lot of organic cheese and whatever else I could tolerate, and we survived.
When we had the death of a close family member in our family, spending a lot of time in the kitchen simply wasn’t a priority. We relied on simple food at home, and also learned where in our city we could find frugal and healthy food when we needed to get a meal out.
Our diet has gone through stages of being almost religiously clean, to a mix-up of healthier prepared food, restaurant-fare and only the simplest food at home.
If you are in that “reality smashing ideals” stage right now, I want you to know that I’ve been there and it’s okay to be there. Here are two thoughts I tell myself during that stage.
This is a season and it doesn’t have to last forever. Morning sickness felt like it was 10 years long, but it did pass, and I did fall in love with cooking nourishing food again. Many of our trials and realities will change in time. Look for that light at the end of the tunnel.
I can only do my best. Yes, in an ideal world, I would always be perfect in every way, including how I feed my family. In fact, in an ideal world, I would always have enough money to buy the best of the best, there wouldn’t be toxins around us, and my energy would soar and my time would always be well-managed. Since I don’t live in an ideal or perfect world, I find peace in knowing that I have limits, and I simply need to do the best that I can within those limits.
Yes, working towards an ideal diet is … ideal. But give yourself a lot of grace on the road to your ideal, and give yourself flexibility during times of stress as needed. It will go a long way towards a sustainable lifestyle.
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