A stranger at the playground tells us how much our daughters look like us and we thank them.
And then we look in the mirror and mumble about how much we hate our mousy hair or joke about our thunder thighs.
So despite the words that are coming our of our mouths, here is what our daughters hear:
"I look like mom and mom doesn't think she is beautiful. Therefore I must not be beautiful either."
and Discovery Girls Magazine recently surveyed 2,400 moms and more than 11,500 girls to find out what they think about body image and appearance. The survey found that half of moms and girls say they don’t like how they look in a selfie. However, most daughters surveyed think their moms are beautiful, even though girls struggle with their own appearance. Here is a quick visual of their results:
So how can we teach our daughters to accept themselves and their bodies when we don't do the same for ourselves?
We don't need to brag about our looks. But we do need to stop focusing on our own flaws if we ever want our daughters to feel good about their bodies. We need to stop complaining about how big our legs look in a skirt and focus on how strong they are.
And every now and again it's OK to look in the mirror and take pride in what we see - whether it's our sparkling blue eyes or our long fingers, or that hint of a bicep that's starting to peek out from all of those mornings at the gym.
The message is loud and clear. When we accept our own bodies, our daughters will learn to do the same.
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