The happiness of not hoarding
We're not advocating that you own nothing and sleep on the floor in the one outfit you own, but are you grasping after possessions?
Fri, Mar 29, 2013 at 06:25 PM
Let's take the questions you should ask before acquiring any new item to a deeper level. Really, how much stuff should any one person have? How many possessions are enough? How to decide?
Consider aparigraha. It's a Sanskrit word, used both within Hinduism and Jainism as an ethical guideline. It means non-possessiveness, greedlessness, taking for yourself nothing more than what you genuinely need. Less loftily it means not hoarding. Even more abstractly it means not grasping for things and, in a modern consumer culture context, not defining yourself by what you own.
Think about it: Provided you have a roof over your head, ample food, and a modicum of clothing (and, unfortunately in too many places, some form of motorized transport), every single thing you add to your life past that is at least in part an encumbrance in some way.
All those books, CDs and tchotchkes have to be stored and displayed. Excess furniture clutters the room, has to be cleaned, and makes cleaning the floor more difficult. All those seldom-used kitchen gadgets require excess drawer space or counter space. Beyond the physical space, all of this often takes up mental and emotional space as well. You're attached to your things, don't want them to be taken or be damaged. The more you have, the more you have to grab onto and if you're not mindful, the more you want to have.
I'm not advocating that we all own nothing and sleep on the floor in the one outfit we own. I'd be a huge hypocrite if that was the case. I'm quite happily married, with one child, and I own a good deal of stuff by any reasonable standard.
But, the question that I wrestle with constantly is, "how much is enough?" Am I grasping after possessions? By holding onto certain physical objects, even if those objects grant passing pleasure, am I really just holding myself down under their weight? It's a process, a paring away, a shaping, a refining, a flow.
After all, from a survival and life-satisfaction standpoint, I have way more than I need, in any absolute sense. Plus, the thing that I find — something that I think most people find who start down the path of paring down possessions — is that the more you shed from your life, share with others, and then not take back in to fill the space, the happier you ultimately become.
A very basic experiment that I tried (and have stuck with) and which I encourage you to undertake: If you regularly carry around a bag with you, try going without it for several days. Feel the difference in how you experience the world. At least in my case, the lack of encumbrance is both physical and mental. It's more direct and present somehow. I now do this as default, going bag-free. Unless I truly need to carry objects from A to B as a task, I carry only that which can fit in my pockets (and no cargo pants here). It's one of the best things I've done in some time, however simple it may seem.
The hard part is then moving on to doing that in the rest of your life. Deciding what else do you not need to be "carrying" with you, even when it sits in your closet, your dresser, your shelves. Each item removed, until a balance point is reached, is freeing. If you're really hardcore about it, you may have to go past the balance point to realize you did so.
Mat McDermott lives in New York City, where he writes about all things green and dharmic, as well as working with the Bhumi Project to reduce the environmental impact of Hindu temples. He wrote this post to draw attention to the sharing site yerdle, and it is shared here with permission.
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